Get Off My Case (I won't say it)

I understand. I could see it in her. She didn’t tell me half of what I know (she never did)… but I knew the process so well, you see? It’s how I knew in the first place. About myself… no matter how intellectually you struggle for something, sometimes it will just never sit in your body.

Nature does this… it creates half/half or 3/4 or any mix & variation.. But we live in a society that accepts one or the other, not both. A situation supported by our brains’ natural tendency to absolutism. It’s Plato’s perfect triangle; the idea of a triangle, the defining mathematics of it’s form or essence, is eternal. Any individual triangle, the triangles of the day-to-day experiential world, are never quite perfect: They may be a little crooked, or the lines a little thick, or the angles not quite right…. They only approximate that perfect triangle, the ‘ideal triangle’. This tendency towards absolutism is what made it so difficult for Darwin to explain his theory of Evolution - the concept that, say, a giraffe and a frog share a common ancestor; that they, step by step, each changed from the one creature, breeding amongst their new found species until, finally, today, now seem almost incomprehensibly different - though that is a book in itself (and I’m sure Dawkins has already written it)….

It is the same with the ‘ideal man’ or ‘ideal woman’ - they exist in society’s mind’s eye, with no place for the in between. (Sure, individuals may vary from the essential - but not too much, no.. no, then they wouldn’t be “right”… they would be “broken”/”sick”/”disabled” - uncorrelateable with the ideal)
And that’s how we were designed to think. As children that is how we learn. It is black or white. Good guys or bad guys.
Yes, as we get older the gray becomes clearer and clearer, but there are some things that are just wired in.

And yet some of us are manufactured other than according to the factory standard.

The thing that hurts the most…

…it did not count in the end. Which is not to disregard the amazing interim. Just to note that this is how humans work.


This will continue to occur.

Mind over matter only works for so long in certain situations.